Tuesday, 31 March 2015

Controversy!!! Hype!! Views!! Result??

Before posting this, I had thought  so many times. I even wanted to have someone proofread it before I make it public, but then, its my opinion, its my choice. I know I am not wrong.. 


So, I was working in my office and a colleague (male) of mine was sharing a post on FB which was a perfect answer (according to him) to the much controversial video of women empowerment by VOGUE featuring  Deepika Padukon. First of all, Hats off to deepkia's bold performance. She has always been my favourite. Other than that, the controversy it created is quite huge.  When I watched it, I was of neutral opinion, I had not taken seriously everything that she said. I was like, okay, its our own choice whatever we want to do to aur lives, we can do. Its "My Choice". Even I asked my colleague what was wrong in that which I quite realized after I read his post. The message that was ought to empower women was rather communicated in a wrong direction. There was a point in the video that its a woman's choice to have sex outside marriage or not. Now the controversy is, if a woman can make this choice , men should also have this choice . And if all this is taken as righteous, then it questions our whole concept of marriage. If a marriage doesn't work because of some reason and the two people involved mutually agree on starting a new life with other partners, then its a different thing. But the message in video , in one way or other, supports adultery. Be it in India or in any part of the world, cheating should never be a choice. Neither it empowers women solely by arguing that even men do that . If we start going in this direction, then one day, we will also support that women can rape because men do so. I am not saying that men are the culprits in every crime, I am only trying to make a point here that we are not supposed to support wrong deeds in the name of women empowerment. 

We, the women who need empowerment in this male dominant society today, are happily sharing the video , stating.. "Its my choice", "Must watch", "Must share".. Are we totally blind that we could not see the controversial part?? May be YES.. or may be NO because of the way we perceived it. When she said "Sex outside marriage", most of us have not even noticed this because we were more enrolled in the idea behind the video, that it should be my choice, not the "sex outside marriage" part, but the other decisions of life that we need to take. And we should not be judged for every decision we take, every choice we make.  Such emotional fools we are, got caught up in this controversy without even wanting to support it. That's all right, its not like we are now supporting it. (Some of us might do that, but that's just another example of double standards of our society).

The video said what it said. It might be a business strategy of VOGUE, or whatever it might be. The thing is we are not kids anymore that one video will teach us what we ought to do and what not. What's right and what's wrong, we can evaluate ourselves and can choose aur own path. Empowering women doesn't mean we can bring down men, or take away men's freedom. Its all about giving women equal status, equal rights and equal freedom .

I believe , all the efforts that people are making in this direction, will not go in vain . We will live this dream one day . Aameen! 

Friday, 13 March 2015

What next?

For an entirely new blogger like me, who just wants to write but don't know what to write, it's immensely frustrating to have started a blog and then sitting back and wondering, what next???
  Because of this fear, that I won't be able to give it ample time, and more importantly, what will I write about, I never did anything to take my wish to a new level.. Bt you know, sometimes, amidst all odds, you just get a ray of hope which is all together sufficient to enlighten you.. That's what happened with me or worked for me that I instantly created my blog without much thinking.. But the moment I finished my first one, I was stuck with the dear question again, what next?? 

Lots of issues inspired me on which I seldom write about (in my head only).. Ideas were there to continue my blog but with all randomness.. I like randomness but not at the cost of illogical irrelevant blogs without a purpose.. I think, there must be an inspiration.. for me and for the readers.. So why not let me start with this very question, What Next?
I knew my problems and after a lot of soul searching and deep introspection, I made a start. But I also knew, I am not alone in this race. Lots of people like me dream about so many things that they want to do in their lives, apart from what they are already doing. There is a secret wish, a buried desire.. But the fear of “Will it be continued?”, “Will it go somewhere?”, “Will it lead me somewhere?”, is the real problem that keeps them from even making  a move. So here is the funda.. Just start it.. Atleast give it a try.. Maybe, it will fail, Maybe, you will fail.. Maybe, it will waste your time or you might loose interest in that, or sometthing else might fill the void.. But just think, will that all go in vain?? No.. For one thing, u will be happy and you should be happy for you made a start.. You did something entirely for you..you tried to accomplish a long lost desire..and who knows, you might do marvels in that.. You might find out your ultimate purpose of life. You might find something else that u want to do or always wanted to do.. Now, you can make a move for that also.. Most of it, you won't have any regrets in your life.. And that my friend, is one thing for which wasting a lil time won't ever be a regret.. So..just start!!!! Because its never too late. Cheers!!

Do it now, because sometimes, LATER becomes NEVER

P.S. For the readers, I don't want nice article type comments. Reason being , I want you to share your wish for which you are going to make a move, or are already doing something for that, please share your story so that others can be motivated. For those, who din't get the answer while reading, just introspect. Think of some random hobbies and try that. Do not stop until you find out your passion. Passion is what keeps us all alive. And, alive is awesome :D